Hey Gorgeous!
This post is dedicated to highly sensitive souls, including those who’ve taken measures to numb their sensitivity to protect themselves from heartache.
It’s late (for me) on Sunday night. I rarely wait this late to write my newsletter, but I struggled to write this week. My dammed up writing flow felt connected to the reason I cried a little before bed and cried a lot when I woke up this morning—I’ve been overwhelmed with feelings of love and gratitude for the spiritual awareness and openness I’ve been blessed with recently.
Because a lot has been revealed in a short amount of time, my nervous system has been adjusting and regulating to a new normal. Most of Sunday felt like my body and my psyche just needed time to process and integrate my new experiences.
We often “self-sabotage” because our nervous systems need to regulate after great experiences the same way they need to regulate after traumatic experience. What we label self-sabotage is often just our nervous system trying to return to a state that feels normal and expected, which isn’t always what we consciously want or what’s best for us.
Most of Sunday felt like floating in a pool of water, but the water is simply awe. I needed to marinate in my new state of consciousness so my nervous system could learn to accept it as the new normal. That called for lots of down time, a nap, and pulling back from my usual activities so that I could just be.
Yes, the spiritual barista must refill her own cup as well.
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Last September, I wrote a post titled, “What if Sensitivity is Your Superpower.” I highly recommend reading or reviewing that one. There I discuss the value of sensitivity.
This week, I want to remind us to take care of ourselves as sensitives. Rest, recover, rejuvenate, refill you cups, and relax.
This will be especially helpful with Uranus and Venus making special moves this week. While there’s a lot to be excited about, there could be some disruptions (positive, negative, both, or neutral) that call for nervous system regulation. Venus meeting Uranus is giving “defibrillator” vibes, a shock to the system, but one that revives the heart.
Perhaps you’ll have a day or two like I just had, where nervous system regulation involves purging and releasing in some way, maybe tears, but it could be other forms of release. I do think tears are good biologically and psychologically. And far too many people suppress their tears when they’re one of our natural tools for healing. And if you are a healer of any sort, your tears just might be helping purge and release for others who can’t cry at this time. Sometimes we cry collective tears.
Because Venus and Uranus are moving into the sign of Gemini, we can also use the beautiful tool of good conversation and laughter! I hope we all get our fill of both!!
Gemini is considered the “childlike” energy of the zodiac, so lean into play and wonder. Learn something new just for fun. Make up games. Stretch your imagination. Color. Dance. Or do Mad Libs.
There are myriad ways to refill your cup and regulate your nervous system. You probably already sense what works for you, but feel free to explore and experiment. (Experimenting is so Uranus in Gemini.)
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I’ve been a Lizz Wright fan for years. She’s one of my favorite vocalists, and this song introduced me to a new quality/range in her voice. And of course I’m a student of these lyrics:
“I’ve been running, and there’s no place left to go round in the world. Here and there mean the same. It’s my pleasure to know that where I am is home…
“I’ve heard so much about love, but I’ve learned the most from need… Carrying the load, trying so hard to please… no one has to tell me, lay my burdens down here… This way. This way…
If you really feel these lyrics, hit reply and let me know. Enjoy the music!
Sincerely,
